Resolution, sort of...

After several days of moping, including a short walk with Laura where she prattled on and he just listened politely, Dave finally mustered the courage to talk seriously with her. He sent her a text message asking her to call. He wrote out a little speech and memorized it. The next morning she did call. She was on her dog walk, but inside the apartment complex, avoiding direct contact. Which was OK for Dave. He was able to read his speech pretty much word for word.

Since our conversations last week, where I told you I really like you, that I have a big crush on you... I've been a bit messed up. Now I know that you have a boy friend that you are serious about, that he may be Mr Right, and so I was not expecting you to say that you felt the same way. I get that. But what I was hoping for was some indication from you as to how you feel about me. I want to know what "Thank you" meant. We've spent a lot of time together walking and I've asked you out a few times and you always had an excuse. What is it about me that mades you hesiate about dating me? Weight, fitness, body, age, gray hair, bad breath, or something about the way I act? I'd really appreciate some feedback... I don't want to stay single forever and hope that I can learn something from this experience.

Laura did not come out with a specific answer. She mostly attributed it to timing and chance. She did not say anything positive about Dave, but neither was there anything negative. It was more like, "When you first asked me out, I thought there was a chance I might get back with my husband. Then that did not pan out but later I met this guy and already had strong feelings for him. So when you asked me out again I was already involved." She did say that she was embarrassed by some of the comments he had made of a sexual nature, so clearly she was a little prudish. But he could have fixed that, been more careful what he said. She seemed to ignore the other times in between when he had suggested activities, the concerts he invited her to, dog park visits, and been turned down But what was the point? She either was trying not to hurt him or maybe did not think enough about him to ever have considered him date material. At any rate, it was clear that she did not have feelings for him. And he had an answer. Not a great answer, but not a very hurtful one either.

It was time to move on. [Read the next segment here]